How to Be a Better Parent ? 10 golden rules !
Why would you type “how to be a better parent” on google ? Because of the ineffectiveness of your parenting style so far. Because you’re tired and think you tried everything. Because you have kids who obey your rules but would like to create a stronger bond and feel the love of your children.
There are many reasons why you might want to know how to be a better parent but first I don’t think anyone is a bad parent. I just think some parents don’t understand their children and therefore don’t react in an appropriate way. It’s just a lack of knowledge, not a lack of parenting skills. We are not born parents and being a good parent is something we learn sometimes unconsciously when we’re kids, sometimes as a parent.
The 10 golden rules below will show you how to be a better parent :
1. Listen to your child when he talks. Make eye contact. Bend or kneel if necessary. Show respect. Don’t interrupt your child when he talks. Show interest, ask questions, be there.
2. Play with your child. Don’t feel locked in your parenting role. You won’t be less respected and less obeyed if you sit on the carpet and decorate a doll house. It’s important to share those moments.
3. Be firm and loving (and not BUT loving). Show the rules you settle mean that you care for your child, that you want the best for him because you know what is the best for him. He’ll make his own choices later. For now, you’re the one who knows and you make the rules.
4. Cuddle a lot, hug a lot, kiss a lot, tickle a lot ! The physical contact is very important. It makes children feel safe and secure.
5. Explain everything and answer questions. Where you’re going, how long it’ll take, why you say no, what you say no to, what you want your child to understand by this punishment, and so on. Children accept things more when they understand them.
6. Ask questions. Be consistent in the interest you show to your child. Even if he’s a teenager and only answers “It was ok” ! It’ll pay off.
7. Talk about yourself. Tell stories about when you were a child, the experiences that taught you something, what you were thinking of the rules at home. Your child will feel understood and will love those stories. It’ll also help him develop his self-esteem by knowing you made mistakes too and there were things you were incapable of doing like riding a bike or something else (only if that’s true of course).
8. Encourage your child. Tell him you trust him, love him, believe in him, no matter what. This is very important.
9. Give him the rights to feel pain, to feel sadness, anger, frustration. Teach him to express his feelings with words.
10. Nourish his curiosity. If your child says he’s interested in fishes even though you find that absurd, buy him a book about it, go to the aquarium with him, always develop his curiosity and show interest in what he’s interested. Don’t have a preconceived idea of what your child will like or become. Just be there. This is how to be a better parent.
I do hope these advices, rules if I may say, will help you see what you can change in your own behavior to have a stronger relationship with your child. How to be a better parent equals really being there. Of course, sometimes, things are more complicated because your child has developed bad habits and has stopped communicating with you. Remember there’s always a solution and in addition to the advices above, a parenting method could help you dealing with a difficult situation. Don’t hesitate to visit our website to know the programs we tested and recommend at www.YourParentingHelp.com.
January 28th, 2010 at 2:58 am
Great looking site and good read. Is this the original source or did you get it from a news site?
January 28th, 2010 at 3:57 am
It is the original source ! I’m the author of all the posts and the website http://www.YourParentingHelp.com has been created by me and some parents.
I’m glad you like it !
Laura
January 28th, 2010 at 7:31 am
thanks to the autor
January 28th, 2010 at 7:35 am
You’re welcome ! Glad you like my articles !
Laura
January 29th, 2010 at 12:52 am
Do you plan to keep this site updated? I sure hope so… its great!
January 29th, 2010 at 12:06 pm
Yep I’ll keep it updated ! New post tonight and then 1 each day if I can.
Thanks for your nice comment, it’s encouraging !
Laura
January 29th, 2010 at 10:33 pm
Great post! Thank you so much for all you do, i’ll keep reading.
January 29th, 2010 at 10:40 pm
I’m glad to count you among my readers ! This blog is brand new so it encourages me to receive such nice comments !
Laura
January 29th, 2010 at 11:59 pm
Good advice here. I have three children close in age. Knowing I only get one shot at this, I work hard to be the best parent I can. I think I try to do all the rules, but a reminder is always good. Anyone interested in advice to help your children read may want to check out my blog, http://beginningreadinghelp.blogspot.com
January 30th, 2010 at 9:10 am
Thanks ! Your post about reading is very interesting too, I left a comment!
Laura
January 31st, 2010 at 4:03 pm
I enjoyed reading your blog, keep up the good works.
January 31st, 2010 at 4:16 pm
Thank you very much !
Laura
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:38 am
Great site, exactly what I was looking for, I can’t get your RSS feed to work right in google chrome though, is it on my end?
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:14 pm
Thank you ! About google chrome, because it’s the beta version for now, you can’t subscribe to rss feeds but I checked it out for you, and obvioulsy people who use chrome read rss feeds with google reader (www.google.com/reader) or there -> http://feeds.ramisp.org/
Hope that helps and thanks again !
Laura
February 5th, 2010 at 11:28 am
Thanks for the great post! keep it coming
February 5th, 2010 at 12:04 pm
Thanks for reading !
February 5th, 2010 at 7:33 pm
Great post… keep it coming! I only wish there were more websites like this.
February 5th, 2010 at 8:22 pm
Thank you ! That’s very nice of you to say so !
Laura